ABANDONED IN SICKNESS: THE HIDDEN SCARS OF A BROKEN BOND

When someone is abandoned by their partner during a time of sickness, it’s not just the physical illness they must endure—the emotional toll cuts far deeper. This betrayal leaves lasting scars on their psyche, altering how they cope and trust in future relationships

Why Do Breakups Happen?

What holds a bond together? Professor G. Padmaja, Head of the Centre for Psychology at the University of Hyderabad, explains, “Every individual responds differently to relationships, shaped by personality and expectations. Some approach dating as exploration; others invest deeply—leading to heartbreak when intentions clash. Healthy relationships require mutual trust, respect, and open communication. Without reciprocity, breakups aren’t just inevitable—they’re devastating.”

Professor G. Padmaja

The Pain of Abandonment During Illness

Illness magnifies vulnerability. “Being left when you’re unwell feels like a double betrayal,” says Prof. Padmaja. “The person thinks, ‘Was I only valued when I was healthy?’ That sense of being discarded lingers.”

Dr. Vasuprada Kartic, counsellor and psychotherapist, adds, “The loneliness is paralysing, paired with anxiety and helplessness. Self-doubt festers, and many blame themselves unfairly.”

Emotional Fallout & Long-Term Effects

The initial shock of abandonment often spirals into confusion and grief. “It destabilises emotional recovery,” notes Prof. Padmaja. “The absence of a partner creates a void, making healing feel impossible.”

Dr. Vasuprada highlights a grim disparity, “Studies show men leave sick partners six times more often than women. This reflects unrealistic expectations—many see relationships as conditional on convenience.”

Dr. Vasuprada Kartic

Fear of Rejection & Behavioural Shifts

The trauma breeds lasting insecurity. “Some become clingy, desperate for reassurance; others isolate themselves, reinforcing their fear of rejection,” says Dr. Vasuprada.

Prof. Padmaja observes, “Abandonment triggers painful introspection—‘What’s wrong with me?’—but the fault rarely lies with the person left behind.”

Healing: From Self-Blame to Strength

Dr. Vasuprada stresses, “Therapy helps reframe guilt. Ask: ‘Could I have walked away if roles were reversed?’ This shifts perspective.”

Prof. Padmaja adds: “True healing starts when self-worth isn’t tied to another’s presence. Happiness must come from within.”

Rebuilding & Moving Forward

Support groups, creative outlets, and therapy restore confidence. “Without addressing the trauma, people repeat toxic patterns,” warns Dr. Vasuprada. “Emotional rehabilitation—through cognitive restructuring and storytelling—helps rewrite narratives.”